Come away with me and we'll kiss
On a mountaintop
Come away with me
And I'll never stop loving you...
People are asking me if being in a long-term relationship is worth it. Especially for me, because he is my first boyfriend (and if things go smoothly, would be my last). My friends and I just had a girl talk recently about that. Is it really worth it if you pursue a serious, long-term relationship? Especially if you started the relationship early and young? Of course, there are advantages and disadvantages of this kind of relationship. Us, for example. We are not the lip-locking, hug-hungry, PDA-loving type of couple. Actually, we have what we call "baby steps" in our relationship, stages that we have gone through before we got to be where we at right now. And I think that is the reason why we manage to stay together for so long. We didn't hold hands after a month, we didn't really kiss after 3 months, and his mother didn't even know I exist until our fifth year of being together! For some people, this situation may be weird, even frustrating. But it worked for us.
We started going out when I was just 15, and he 16. And after all these years, we still have so many things to discover together. And we really have different personalities. I could be a bit childish sometimes, and he could be a pain when pissed off. But we always compromise, and try to be sensitive to the feelings of the other party.
But sometimes, I can't help to think the possibilities if I am not with him right now. If I tried dating and meeting other people first before I settle down. And being in a long-term relationship requires patience, tons of it to be exact. Especially if your personalities are like poles apart, like we are. The pressure is also more pronounced, on how to make your relationship different and better each day, or else you'll end up in a routinary, boring union. Good thing we don't limit our relationship to just both of us. We still manage to spend time with friends, meet new people, without compromising our relationship. The rule of thumb is: both of you must know your limitations.
And I want to wake up with the rain
Falling on a tin roof
While I'm safe there in your arms ...
Of course, we do have plans of settling down. Right now, we're on the stage of planning our future. Both of us have stable jobs now, enjoying the financial and emotional freedom we so deserve. Looking back, I think being with him is worth it. The journey that we have been through makes this feat so sweet. Both of us have grown emotionally and psychologically together, but still, there is always a room for improvement. And I can't think of anybody else sharing memorable moments of my life but him. And I know that it's the same for him, too.
So all I ask is for you
To come away with me in the night
Come away with me ...
*this entry is for our seventh year anniversary this coming April 3. tehehehe! And the Norah Jone's song "Come Away with Me"? We watched it last Saturday! Norah rocks!!!*